Why Is There Always Something Missing?

Why Is There Always Something Missing? The search for love and relationships often leads us to seek someone who complements us, possessing qualities we feel we lack.

The media has successfully convinced us that happiness can be attained through external means, perpetuating the idea that fulfillment lies in material possessions or the validation of others. However, this mindset fosters a sense of attachment, where we rely on external sources to make us feel whole and complete.

In my personal experience, my past relationships reflected the aspects I believed were missing within myself. Beacause, I surrounded myself with individuals who possessed qualities I felt I couldn’t attain on my own. I became dependent on them for various aspects of my life, relying on their presence to save me from my perceived shortcomings.

However, it wasn’t until these relationships ended that I realized the extent of my codependency. I was forced to listen to my own inner voice and make important decisions without seeking validation from others. In “How your emotions are guiding you,” you can delve deeper into yourself by discovering your triggers. 

This newfound independence led to a boost in my self-confidence and self-acceptance. By learning new activities and developing new interests, I had previously deemed inaccessible to me, I became more outgoing and began advocating for myself without someone to speak on my behalf.

“To be happy means to be self-sufficient,”

Aristotle

Cultivating Self-Sufficiency 

By relying on ourselves and cultivating self-sufficiency, we free ourselves from the illusion that joy resides outside us. We become whole and complete, independent of external validation or needing someone else to fill our perceived gaps.

 Important decisions were not made unless I consulted with a friend or a partner. I didn’t realize how codependent I was until these relationships were severed. I had no choice but to listen to my voice.

As a result, my self- confidence began to rise. I became more self -sufficient and self-accepting. I began to delve into things I thought weren’t for me. I became more outgoing since I didn’t have anyone to speak on my behalf.

I experienced myself as autonomous, liberated from an ostentatious life filled with hidden insecurity.

“Attachment is the root of all suffering ” 

Buddha

Only by becoming more self-sufficient can we experience freedom and love unconditionally.