Growth and development require examining our behavior and actions. Albert Einstein described insanity as repeating the same actions and expecting different results. Sex often remains unexamined and considered taboo, leading to a lack of communication and misguided expectations.
We expect our partners to please us without questioning our own expectations. How can anyone satisfy us if we haven’t learned to satisfy ourselves?
I was told I looked in charge of my orgasms, which made me reflect on my moments of intimacy. Although I seemed in control, my partner held the power as my orgasms depended on their performance.
Knowing oneself is the first step to a satisfying love life. Open communication creates space for freedom and trust, vital elements for connecting with another person. Without them, the other becomes an object to fulfill a need.
We often create mental constructs to achieve climax, which detracts from being present. By getting out of our heads and focusing on the body, we can truly connect with our partner—feeling their touch, their energy, and experiencing their scent.
Thinking analyzes and divides while feeling unites and synthesizes. Sex and love are not the same. Sex allows exploration of the body and sensory pleasures. Approaching it with the intention to explore rather than perform alleviates pressure and fosters a deeper connection with ourselves and our partner.
Thinking is analytical. It divides, splits things. Feeling unites, synthesizes, makes things one.
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh.
